5 Ways to Secretly Get Your Partner’s Ring Size

Time to pop the question? Woohoo!

So, you’re getting ready to surprise your partner with her dream proposal, but she doesn’t know it yet and you’d like to keep it that way. You’ve gone over it in your head, but you’re not sure how to secretly measure her ring size without getting caught.

Don’t worry! In this article, we’ll discuss some discreet and creative ways to find out your partner’s ring size.

However, to pull off this ring operation without a hitch, you’ll need to bring your A-game, and your weapon is ‘stealth.’ If you’re feeling a bit worried about how to measure the ring size without her knowing, don’t be. It’s going to be a walk in the park.

To set this secret mission in motion, read ahead…

5 Secret Techniques for Determining Her Ring Size

1. Bring Her Family & Friends on Board

The easiest way to find out your girlfriend’s ring size is to ask her dear ones for help. Reach out to her family members and close friends – only if you’re okay with sharing your secret with them. Remember to tell them not to disclose your search for your partner’s ring size to anyone else, especially your partner.

Having other people in on your secret can get the mission completed quicker. If you’re lucky, they may know your partner’s ring size; if not, they may eagerly help you on this mission.

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2. Acquire Her Ring

Secretly getting hold of your partner’s ring may require some planning and waiting for the perfect time. Also, you don’t want to get just any ring; you want one that fits the intended finger perfectly. This is because the dominant hand is slightly larger, and all fingers have different sizes.

However, before you get the ring, you’ll need to print our ring size chart and keep it handy for that perfect moment. When you have the ring, place it on each circle on the chart until you find the one that matches the ring’s inner circumference. If you see only the white circle inside your ring, that’s the right size. But, if your ideal fit falls between two sizes, we recommend choosing the larger size.

Did You Know?

Finger sizes change throughout the day depending on the weather and what you consume. They shrink when cold and become puffy when hot. On the other hand, high salt intake causes water retention, which can induce swelling in the fingers. Therefore, getting an accurate ring size reading at night is best. Hence, measuring your partner’s finger while she’s fast asleep is another way to secretly get her ring size. However, it’s a bit tricky.

3. Mark Your Finger With Her Ring

If you don’t have enough time to complete the previous method successfully, here’s an alternate way to learn your partner’s ring size.

After getting her ring, slide it on your finger and mark the point where it sits perfectly. You can return the ring and safely measure the marked area on your finger. To measure, get a string (floss, yarn or piece of paper) and wrap one end around that area of your finger once. Mark the point where it overlaps. Place the string on a ruler and measure the marked area in millimeters. Then, use our size chart to determine her ideal fit.

Note: While this method may work in some cases, it’s not foolproof.

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4. Consult a Jewellery Expert

If you don’t feel confident getting the measurement by yourself, you can contact a jewellery expert. Either show them the marked area on your finger or, better yet, give them the ring.

Remember that determining your partner’s ring size by marking your finger with her ring is not foolproof. So, it’s best to take her ring to the jewellery expert. That way, they can accurately measure it using a mandrel (a special tool used to measure ring sizes).

5. Involve Your Partner in the Process

How to involve your partner in choosing the engagement ring without asking her size directly, you ask? Well, this is the best moment to give the performance of a lifetime and get that ring size. Here goes…

Take your partner shopping under the guise of getting a gift, like an affordable promise ring, for her. Or you could say it’s a gift for someone else, like your mum or sister. Let her try out rings and other jewellery, and while she’s at it, keep your ear and eye out for her perfect size. You can even have her get her finger sized just to be on the safe side.

This is the most foolproof and easiest way to get her ring size.

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Additional Suggestions and Tips

You now have a plan, but you’re still uncertain about going for it? Here are some suggestions and tips that might help you along the way.

1. Whatever ring you borrow, make sure it’s not one of her favourites. If it is, have a plan to return it just in time. But, also don’t borrow one she doesn’t wear at all, it may not be her perfect size.

2. Subtlety and being your usual self are key to keeping your partner from suspecting a thing. So, act normal.

3. When buying the ring, pay attention to the sizing scale. There are different scales for different countries. (On our ring size chart, you can find various international sizes and measurements, including standard US sizes.)

Note: The average women’s ring size is between 5 and 7.

4. Find out the return and/or resizing policy of the ring you plan on getting. If you’ve gotten your partner’s ring size but are in doubt, it’s best to have this as a backup plan.

5. Get a ring noodle or guard and have it with you on proposal day. This is a quick and temporary fix in case the ring is too big.

6. Don’t involve too many people, but just very close ones. Or it can increase the chances of your partner finding out.

Now, take a deep breath and remember not to let it get overwhelming. This will be a moment you’ll look back on one day and smile. So, have fun with it and make it a story worth telling. We wish you the best of luck with your surprise.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Q1. Is it possible to measure the ring size without my partner suspecting anything?

Yes, there are ways you can go about that. You can find out from her family or friends, or secretly acquire one of her rings and have it sized. Ensure it’s a ring that fits the intended finger perfectly.